There is little of God in Adoption, but…There is poverty.There is pressure.There is desperation.There is misogyny.There is elitism.There is privilege.There is judgment.There is white supremacy.There is neo-colonialism.There is exploitation.There is apathy.There is supply.There is demand.There is greed.There is profit.There is a pattern.There is little of God. United States“the majority (85-95 percent) of single, white, middle-class … More There is Little of God in Adoption
As a birth mother of 23 years, I know a little about the topic of infant adoption, abortion, and the Religious Right. When Amy Coney Barrett recently stated, “So petitioner points out that in all 50 states you can terminate parental rights by relinquishing a child after [birth], and I think the shortest period might … More Infant Adoption, Abortion, and the Religious Right
Adoptosplaining…like Mansplaining…or Racesplaining…but Adoption There are far too many people speaking with a sense of authority on adoption without the lived experiences of adoption. This can often lead to invalidating, othering, or alienating the very people these “authorities” claim to care and speak for. I am a birth mom and I have been anonymously blogging … More Stop Using Me as Your “Just Fine” Adoption Story
It was the lowest point in my life. I had lost so much in such a short amount of time. I had gone from someone who believed in a hopeful future to someone who was hopeful just to make it through each day; nevermind a future. I was shamed and left unsupported. I had broken … More When You Prayed Against Me
I circle back to this picture quite often. The very moment my daughter and I became legal strangers to one another. My mom said it was a blessing and God’s will. Somehow she managed to look through the lens of a camera and see a hopeful future rather than the destruction of her own daughter … More Do You See My Family?
*This is the third part of a series I am doing for my own personal journey and healing. All parts in this series will be linked back to the introductory post here: God and Adoption: The Series. I grew up in the Church and for nearly 10 years of my adult life, I studied scripture daily. … More Part 3: The Handmaid’s Tale and Modern Adoption Practices
I lost my daughter to an unnecessary adoption in the 1990s. Unnecessary is an understatement. I was still a teenager, but very competent. I was an honor student with a scholarship in my freshman year of college. Due to unforseen events- such as a car wreck, job loss because of the car wreck, and abandonment … More What Could Have Kept My Family Together?
February 24, 199x This would be the only appointment my mom would attend. I was a week overdue. I had spent the last month preparing myself to let go. I would practice in my room at night holding my baby and handing over my baby. That way when the day came, I could mentally checkout, … More A Birth Mom Story: Your Daily Dose of Adoption Porn
I’m at an age where people my age are starting to lose their children to death- disease, accidents, addictions, suicides, etc. With their social media posts, their grieving, their pictures, all of which I believe are necessary and healthy coping mechanisms…I was denied the right to any of this. I never got to grieve my … More I Never Got to Grieve You
Like many Americans searching out various ways to survive the emotional rollercoaster of both a pandemic and political turmoil; I have used binging tv shows as a crutch. One that I was avoiding, but due to rave reviews, finally decided to watch is “The Queen’s Gambit.” No spoilers. I’m only three episodes in myself. I … More The Power of Mother