*This is the fourth part of a series I am doing for my own personal journey and healing. All parts in this series will be linked back to the introductory post here: God and Adoption: The Series. I have been a “birth” mom longer than I haven’t. For many of my birth mom years, I thought … More Part 4: Moses, The Most Ungrateful Adoptee
At this point, you’ve probably been living under a rock (I envy you) if you haven’t heard about the Supreme Court’s Dobbs vs. JWHO leaked opinion. One particular reference has ignited concern among many. A 2008 CDC report is referenced by Alito, stating “[N]early 1 million women were seeking to adopt children in 2002 (i.e., they … More Domestic Supply of Infants for Adoption: A Birth Mom’s Perspective
The following study was conducted by Charles T. Kenny, The Family Research Council, and The National Council for Adoption in order to better understand how to convince pregnant women to place their babies for adoption. The mothers in this study “opposed abortion generally.” This is a study aimed at increasing the “domestic supply of infants … More Domestic Supply of Infants for Adoption: Birthmother, Good Mother
I was told as an unwed teen mom in the 1990s… Adoption was the selfless choice. Parenting was the selfish choice. Adoption was the brave choice. Adoption was the loving choice. In order to prove my love for my daughter, I would place her for adoption. Having a child out of wedlock was a sin. … More My Crime, Her Sentence
You’re pregnant and in a tough spot. Common themes I come across- the father is uninterested in parenthood and leaves, your family is unsupportive or separated by long distances, you’ve had a major expense- lost your job or your car broke down. You don’t want an abortion, but you’re unsure if you’re in a good … More Open Adoption- Zero Stars
My daughter’s birthday is this month. She is well into her 20s now. Every year, her birthday month is just as intensely emotional for me as it has always been. I shut down for weeks on end. I expect nothing from and require nothing of myself. The first few years I was very hard on … More Reclamation
There is little of God in Adoption, but…There is poverty.There is pressure.There is desperation.There is misogyny.There is elitism.There is privilege.There is judgment.There is white supremacy.There is neo-colonialism.There is exploitation.There is apathy.There is supply.There is demand.There is greed.There is profit.There is a pattern.There is little of God. United States“the majority (85-95 percent) of single, white, middle-class … More There is Little of God in Adoption
As a birth mother of 23 years, I know a little about the topic of infant adoption, abortion, and the Religious Right. When Amy Coney Barrett recently stated, “So petitioner points out that in all 50 states you can terminate parental rights by relinquishing a child after [birth], and I think the shortest period might … More Infant Adoption, Abortion, and the Religious Right
Adoptosplaining…like Mansplaining…or Racesplaining…but Adoption There are far too many people speaking with a sense of authority on adoption without the lived experiences of adoption. This can often lead to invalidating, othering, or alienating the very people these “authorities” claim to care and speak for. I am a birth mom and I have been anonymously blogging … More Stop Using Me as Your “Just Fine” Adoption Story
It was the lowest point in my life. I had lost so much in such a short amount of time. I had gone from someone who believed in a hopeful future to someone who was hopeful just to make it through each day; nevermind a future. I was shamed and left unsupported. I had broken … More When You Prayed Against Me
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