If I Weren’t a Christian, I Would Have My Baby…

The truth of those words have circled my subconscious for nearly 20 years like vultures circling their dying prey. Denial is a powerful mechanism for protection and it kept the vultures at a distance, just long enough for me to regain my strength. I didn’t want to believe those words so many years ago, but truth is truth independent … More If I Weren’t a Christian, I Would Have My Baby…

KNAVELOVE: We bake ’em, You take ’em

Tired of searching for that racially-acceptable expectant, er, birth mom (word conditioning matters) in just enough crisis that she will consider relinquishing her child for adoption? Exhausted by competing with all those other picture and paper perfect prospective adoptive parents that were also disproportionately “called by God” at a ratio of 36 to 1? Disappointed with yet another “failed” adoption where your birth mother … More KNAVELOVE: We bake ’em, You take ’em

America, You Have An Adoption Problem.

Dear America, I spent the first 16 years of my adoption experience as a “birth” mother in complete isolation. It was preceded by the nearly 10 months of family-conducted isolation during my pregnancy. Such is the life of a shamed pregnant teenager. I had personally never known either an adopted person or a natural mother. I thought my mother and the adoption … More America, You Have An Adoption Problem.